“I think I’m afraid of being happy because whenever I get too happy something bad always happens.” – Charles M. Schulz
Have you ever been so excited about something and suddenly it will not going to happen? Have you ever wanted something so bad and when it’s almost within reach, it was taken away for some reason? Have you ever hoped, expected, and prayed for something so bad that it broke your heart into pieces?
Is it wrong to expect? Is there a big difference between hoping and expecting? Which causes more disappointment? When you expect, are you not hoping? When you hope for something, are you not expecting?
The word EXPECT is defined in the dictionary as “to think that something will happen” and the word HOPE is defined as “to want and expect something to happen or be true.” Pretty much they have the same meaning. However, if we are to illustrate a scenario, both words are totally different.
Hope is something we desire and expect is something we anticipate. Hope is on “it may happen” whereas expect is on “it will happen” kind of thinking. When we hope, sometimes we just wait for things to happen. It’s like a wish, it is not necessary to do something. But when we expect, we believe that it will happen 100%. Most of the time, we act so that what we expect will come true.
However, the negative side of expecting is when you know it will happen or you are certain of something, if it turns out otherwise, you will be disappointed. Disappointment is frustrating and heartbreaking. Who would like to feel such, anyway? So then, the best thing to do is to expect less or not at all.
“Live life expecting for the worst, hoping for the best, and living for the future.” – Jerry Garcia